My boss brought this NY Times article for us to read, I had seen it the day before. I understood its points but felt it was off the mark and held underlying transphobia. I mentioned that the Laverne Cox’s writing was the most poignant I had read on the subject.
A sales associate was doing shipping in the background and piped in: “I don’t care, if you have a penis you ain’t a woman and Laverne Cox ain’t a woman.” I said: “That is transphobic.” My boss asked us to define what a woman is and Noah said: “a woman is someone who identifies as a woman.”
Half the people in the room continued to define gender by genitalia and I came out as trans*.
The sales associate left and my boss said we needed to respect his opinion, because it was probably hard for him to come out as gay, and that there were differing generational perspectives in the dialogue. Noah, Bea, and I argued we didn’t need to respect transphobia.
The rest of the day was weird and tired. In the afternoon Bea offered to correct people when they mis-gender me, stating her empathetic exhaustion.
Bea gave us a ride home. I ate a lentil burger and installed vapor-screens at Currents. Noah and I bought water, onions, and six pluots. We went to K Mart to get a pot for our root-bound split-leaf philodendron, but the gardening section was closed so Noah bought Magic Cards semi-ironically.
River’s mom, who we affectionately refer to as “Kibby” came over. She said the laundry room was creepy. Exclaiming at the charm of the rest of the house she came back to the laundry room again, saying it felt like animals, like that animals had been killed in there, or maybe butchered. I noted that the ceilings are very high for an old adobe, and this may not have been built as a house originally.
They left to go to the Cowgirl, presumably to eat animal corpses.
I felt blue and started the 45 that had ended over again. It is entirely weird that people still eat animals, that the brutalization of non-human species is socially acceptable. It’s not only illogical on massive environmental and health levels but also clearly unpleasant. Who wants to eat the fear-adrenaline of mistreated creatures?
To return to earlier points, it is also weird that people don’t respect other people’s identities. The other night, after mine and Bea’s art opening the marketing director mis-gendered me and I gently explained that I am trans*. She cried and thanked me for sharing. Later she said: “Actually, I really don’t see you as genderqueer.”
Sorry for any inconvenience. I realize now that my identity is invalid.